Grief Isn't a Lesson -- It's Just Grief: My Thoughts On Spiritual Bypassing In the Spiritual & New Age Communities
As a tarot reader, and someone who’s sought psychics, mediums, and intuitive guidance for years — nothing grinds my gears more than when a fellow “enlightened” spiritual worker drops one of these lines: “Everything happens for a reason.” “It’s all a lesson or a blessing.” “You chose this before you incarnated.” Let me stop you right there, babe. You’re not enlightened — you’re spiritually bypassing , and that look? It does not look good on you. 🙅♀️✨ And I say this with love, because I was once that type of tarot reader. Before my mental breakdown/psychosis episode in 2010, which cracked my soul open, I genuinely believed those well-meaning phrases were comforting. I didn't realize they were doing more harm than good, and perhaps even making some people angry. And to be honest, I've used most of these phrases myself to invalidate my pain and suffering. To "positive think" my way out of grief and trauma. To spiritually gaslight myself into silence. But pain doesn...
